Bring your whole self to all your relationships

Working with Nicola has given me a real sense of empowerment and strength within. It’s been easy to bring what I discovered and learned in the sessions into my day-to-day life, so I now have the means to connect with parts of myself that ground and support me. If a situation makes me feel anxious or upset, I’m able to put myself into a relaxed state more easily… the energy that was going into feeling anxious is now going into soothing myself, and it’s so instant, I don’t have to go through a long process to come back to feeling calmed. I’m feeling more capable, confident and secure, and more compassionate toward myself, because I have an understanding of why the different parts of me are the way they are and what they need. I felt completely comfortable and safe with Nicola in the sessions, because I knew that whatever arose would be accepted. I have no hesitation in recommending her

Since having coaching sessions with Nicola, I catch myself almost on the daily thinking, “Wow, I couldn’t have done this a year ago”. Even my family and friends have noticed a change. The journey hasn’t always been easy but it’s been SO necessary. To list everything I’ve gained would turn into a short novel, so here’s the synopsis: I feel like I’ve come home. Nicola’s breadth and depth of knowledge, her uncompromising honesty, her compassion, humanity and her humour have made it all possible. What’s touched me most is her ability to hold space when I’ve felt really triggered, allowing me to work on deep-rooted issues I’ve been carrying around my whole life. It’s worth mentioning that I’d already been through a year of counselling, I wasn’t sure what coaching could unpick that a therapist hadn’t been able to address. Spoiler alert: everything. Everyone has their path but this was the best one for me. And I look forward to continuing this process together. From the bottom of my heart: thank you.

Nicola, thank you for the wonderfully supportive and transformative space you’ve provided me over the past several months. I have made a decided shift from crisis/overwhelmed mode into a more stable, grounded daily experience, and I know that our sessions played a significant role in that. I feel I’ve untangled some huge inner knots that were keeping me in painful conflict with myself, and that I now have new tools and inner champions to deal with spikes of emotional angst when they arise. I also am making progress in putting my future in motion and am no longer caught in the paralysis that I had when we started working together, which is a huge relief. I just genuinely appreciate the completely accepting space of our sessions and also the joy and happiness that you bring just in your demeanor. I remain so grateful that I came across you at this particular juncture in my life!

Nicola is an extraordinary coach. She balances goals for the session with processing what is coming up in the moment; she witnesses and allows for emotion while also offering insights and framings. She draws from a valuable therapeutic toolkit featuring methods including voice dialogue, and can wisely assess when to use different techniques. She is paving the way for me to dig into my subconscious, feel my emotions, transform myself, and create my future. I feel so blessed to be working with her

Through our voice dialogue sessions, I realised that what I thought were external obstacles in my life weren’t “out there”, but within me. When I saw this, I could easily pass through them and understand why I felt so heavy, anxious and depressed. It felt very spiritual to observe the different parts of my psyche and self from a very loving place, and as the sessions went on, I became kinder to myself and felt more whole. It was very liberating, because I thought I had to squash and hide parts of me that were just trying to get my attention and wanted to be heard. Now I understand that they are trying their best for me, even when it might not seem like it. I feel more comfortable within myself and more confident in my relationships because the voices of self-doubt are no longer the loudest. I feel more self-acceptance and am saying “this is who I am, I’m not changing myself for this situation or for you” yet at the same time I’m more loving toward people who’d annoy me. It’s helped me in my relationship with my partner especially, as I’ve found it easier to communicate and be honest. I feel less frightened and can keep going forward in life without being frozen by the fear of what might happen or how I might feel. I feel much clearer in my direction, and have been able to make a new start after feeling stuck. I no longer feel lost in the conflicting voices within me. I feel whole, stronger in myself, more centred, more connected to my body, and am not repressing my feelings because I know it’s okay to feel them. I feel very hopeful and am grateful. Nicola is non-judgemental and I found working with her easy, comforting and enjoyable, and I highly recommend her

I am very grateful to have an opportunity to participate in your workshops. The loving self-care workshop was absolutely lovely. I love the way you make it interactive…Now I speak to myself kindly, lovingly and encourage myself internally. This change is giving me a great amount of peace, self-love, and helps a lot with ongoing projects. It was amazing to learn about the Drama Triangle too! And your session on boundaries changed my life. Your work is divine! I admire the way you manifest your gifts in work!

Nicola comes with a wealth of experience, knowledge and a passion and enthusiasm for the subject which clearly shone through in this (Say NO Clearly and Kindly) workshop. She is an encouraging and nurturing facilitator who created a safe container where all participants were open to sharing their thoughts and experiences… Nicola encourages you to look at things from different angles in order to start to change many unhelpful learned behaviours and thoughts. I found the session incredibly useful with hints, tips, exercises and different ways to start to incorporate real change into your life!

I loved her coaching sessions, which were fun and supportive, and I used to look forward to each session. Nicola really cares about her clients, and she puts a lot of effort and attention into the work she does. She gave me techniques and exercises that were practical, and easy to learn and apply, and can be used anywhere and at any time. I was surprised how easy and yet effective her techniques were…the coaching she gave me really worked, and has been transformational. I’ve also attended her workshops, which are brilliant and fun. I’d highly recommend Nicola, either as a personal coach or workshop facilitator. She offers quality and expert coaching, and you’ll get great results instantly

Nicola, I want to thank you for the very practical ways you have assisted me to engage mindfully with some of my personal blockages and challenges…the work around boundaries was energetic, practical and playful… it gave me immediate practical ways to approach the issues of giving away too much, or allowing too much in, for my own well-being. Thank you, Nicola

Through her gentle yet powerful approach, she has helped me to become clear in feeling my authentic ‘Yes’ and ‘No’ and expressing them in my relationships with others… I have also been able to ask much more directly for what I need and want, especially in my work situation, which has greatly helped my general well-being…I have come away with not only a range of practical skills and tools to use in everyday life, but also a real feeling in my body of being clear in my boundaries. I am really grateful, it has really helped me a lot

The training and support that Nicola has provided (Assertiveness, Life Skills and Creative Voice) has been of great service to many students who have attended her courses, particularly the assertiveness course…in feedback students reported that the skills they learned enabled them to deal much more effectively with the challenges they face in their interactions with others, reducing their stress considerably. I highly recommend Nicola and her work

Since I started working with Nicola my ability to believe in myself has increased by 100%. I used to think I had to get people to “accept” me. However, I now know that I was putting my desires and ambitions under the table instead of on it. I am sleeping and eating better, worrying less about what people think, more sure about who I am, asking and expecting to be respected, asking for what I want (and often getting it!), letting go of the complainers, learning to communicate instead of avoiding, not arguing with my husband as much, investing in myself and getting results, feeling positive about where I’m going and seeing more beauty in the world. Nicola has strengthened my emotional immune system. Negativity can be all around me, but it doesn’t affect me the way it used to.