One-to-one coaching supporting you to make changes and create a life that you love living.

 

In my role as coach, I provide guidance and encouragement for you to make real, lasting changes in your relationship with yourself, others, and life, and to learn and grow in ways that matter most to you.

I provide support for you to bring greater awareness to the patterns that play out in your experience, to listen deeply to yourself, to step out of your comfort zone, to see things and view yourself from different perspectives, to foster habits and ways of being that serve you, to move toward what you want and to be open to new possibilities.

I’m feeling more capable, confident and secure

“Working with Nicola has given me a real sense of empowerment and strength within. It’s been easy to bring what I discovered and learned in the sessions into my day-to-day life, so I now have the means to connect with parts of myself that ground and support me. If a situation makes me feel anxious or upset, I’m able to put myself into a relaxed state more easily… the energy that was going into feeling anxious is now going into soothing myself, and it’s so instant, I don’t have to go through a long process to come back to feeling calmed. I’m feeling more capable, confident and secure, and more compassionate toward myself, because I have an understanding of why the different parts of me are the way they are and what they need. I felt completely comfortable and safe with Nicola in the sessions, because I knew that whatever arose would be accepted. I have no hesitation in recommending her”

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Rachel Rehin, Stroud, England
Coaching Client

‘Life-changing’ is no exaggeration

Since having coaching sessions with Nicola, I catch myself almost on the daily thinking, “Wow, I couldn’t have done this a year ago”. Even my family and friends have noticed a change. The journey hasn’t always been easy but it’s been SO necessary. To list everything I’ve gained would turn into a short novel, so here’s the synopsis: I feel like I’ve come home. Nicola’s breadth and depth of knowledge, her uncompromising honesty, her compassion, humanity and her humour have made it all possible. What’s touched me most is her ability to hold space when I’ve felt really triggered, allowing me to work on deep-rooted issues I’ve been carrying around my whole life. It’s worth mentioning that I’d already been through a year of counselling, I wasn’t sure what coaching could unpick that a therapist hadn’t been able to address. Spoiler alert: everything. Everyone has their path but this was the best one for me. And I look forward to continuing this process together. From the bottom of my heart: thank you.

Fran Holder
Fran Holder, Brighton, UK
Coaching client

Nicola is an extraordinary coach…I feel so blessed to be working with her

Nicola is an extraordinary coach. She balances goals for the session with processing what is coming up in the moment; she witnesses and allows for emotion while also offering insights and framings. She draws from a valuable therapeutic toolkit featuring methods including voice dialogue, and can wisely assess when to use different techniques. She is paving the way for me to dig into my subconscious, feel my emotions, transform myself, and create my future. I feel so blessed to be working with her

Julia Paley, Washington, DC, USA
Coaching Client

Working with Nicola has transformed the way I feel

Through our voice dialogue sessions, I realised that what I thought were external obstacles in my life weren’t “out there”, but within me. When I saw this, I could easily pass through them and understand why I felt so heavy, anxious and depressed. It felt very spiritual to observe the different parts of my psyche and self from a very loving place, and as the sessions went on, I became kinder to myself and felt more whole.

It was very liberating, because I thought I had to squash and hide parts of me that were just trying to get my attention and wanted to be heard. Now I understand that they are trying their best for me, even when it might not seem like it.

I feel more comfortable within myself and more confident in my relationships because the voices of self-doubt are no longer the loudest. I feel more self-acceptance and am saying “this is who I am, I’m not changing myself for this situation or for you” yet at the same time I’m more loving toward people who’d annoy me. It’s helped me in my relationship with my partner especially, as I’ve found it easier to communicate and be honest.

I feel less frightened and can keep going forward in life without being frozen by the fear of what might happen or how I might feel. I feel much clearer in my direction, and have been able to make a new start after feeling stuck.

I no longer feel lost in the conflicting voices within me. I feel whole, stronger in myself, more centred, more connected to my body, and am not repressing my feelings because I know it’s okay to feel them. I feel very hopeful and am grateful.

Nicola is non-judgemental and I found working with her easy, comforting and enjoyable, and I highly recommend her

Kerry Goodfellow
Bern, Switzerland

I feel very heard, held and understood by you

I really appreciate how gentle yet firm you are at the same time. I feel very heard, held and understood by you. Your reflections are pretty much always right on point and they have really helped me to unravel and understand parts of me that I have never quite grasped before, even with therapy.

Lauren Swift
Lauren Swift, Brighton, UK
Coaching Client

Immediate practical ways to approach the issues

Nicola, I want to thank you for the very practical ways you have assisted me to engage mindfully with some of my personal blockages and challenges…the work around boundaries was energetic, practical and playful… it gave me immediate practical ways to approach the issues of giving away too much, or allowing too much in, for my own well-being. Thank you, Nicola

Jim Lawson
Jim Lawson, Victoria, Australia
Coaching Client

Coaching with Nicola has been an amazing experience for me

Through her gentle yet powerful approach, she has helped me to become clear in feeling my authentic ‘Yes’ and ‘No’ and expressing them in my relationships with others… I have also been able to ask much more directly for what I need and want, especially in my work situation, which has greatly helped my general well-being…I have come away with not only a range of practical skills and tools to use in everyday life, but also a real feeling in my body of being clear in my boundaries. I am really grateful, it has really helped me a lot

Amy Behrens Clark
Amy Behrens Clark, Bristol, UK
Coaching Client

Working with Nicola has made me much more energetic and excited about my life!

There is a lot more fun, joy and laughter. I relate to myself in a more positive, fulfilling way…I am more compassionate, loving and gentle with myself, I am listening to myself, and I now give myself the opportunity to experience the pleasures of life. When my boundaries are clear I feel much more confident and experience the world in a more positive and fun way. Communicating with others is much easier and more relaxed as I feel more grounded in myself. As a result I am more open to different life experiences

Maya, Galway, Ireland
Coaching Client

I really became more aware of my personal boundaries and my real Self

I was very happy with my decision to take the boundaries coaching programme that Nicola offers. It was an incredibly useful experience, and a real pleasure to work with Nicola. I feel I really became more aware of my personal boundaries and my real Self, and became a stronger person and more connected to myself. Nicola was very good at listening carefully and noting and picking up what I was struggling with…Nicola really cared about my feelings and concerns

Kasia, London, UK
Coaching Client

The coaching she gave me really worked, and has been transformational

Nicola coached me in assertiveness, boundaries, and learning how to say “no”. I chose Nicola because I consider her a great role model for healthy assertiveness and good boundaries.

Normally, I’d feel some fear or resistance, but I loved her coaching sessions, which were fun and supportive, and I used to look forward to each session. Nicola really cares about her clients, and she puts a lot of effort and attention into the work she does.

She gave me techniques and exercises that were practical, and easy to learn and apply, and can be used anywhere and at any time. I was surprised how easy and yet effective her techniques were. I still use them today (two years later), and they have really helped me become more assertive and confident.

I’d done some assertiveness training before, but it wasn’t effective. I consider Nicola to be a real expert in this area, she has so much knowledge and experience, and she tailored the coaching to my needs.

The coaching she gave me really worked, and has been transformational.

I’ve also attended her workshops, which are brilliant and fun. I’d highly recommend Nicola, either as a personal coach or workshop facilitator. She offers quality and expert coaching, and you’ll get great results instantly.

Elinor Martell
Elinor Martell, Buckinghamshire, UK
Coaching Client

My ability to believe in myself has increased by 100%

Since I started working with Nicola my ability to believe in myself has increased by 100%. I used to think I had to get people to “accept” me. However, I now know that I was putting my desires and ambitions under the table instead of on it. I’m now getting more and more confident at asking for what I want, and I have almost completely stopped dancing around that tricky word “No.”

Boundaries were a huge thing, I had none! I thought that if I was going to get my value and experience out to the world, then I had to become everyone’s best friend. It was draining, and I was drowning in my own kindness and need to be heard.

I believe Nicola’s boundaries coaching program needs to be taught in schools to children from the age of 5 and for it to continue right through the education system.

Since working with Nicola, I am sleeping and eating better, worrying less about what people think, more sure about who I am, asking and expecting to be respected, asking for what I want (and often getting it!), letting go of the complainers, learning to communicate instead of avoiding, not arguing with my husband as much, investing in myself and getting results, feeling positive about where I’m going and seeing more beauty in the world.

Nicola has strengthened my emotional immune system. Negativity can be all around me, but it just doesn’t affect me the way it used to.

Valerie Farragher
Valerie Farragher, Co Mayo, Ireland
Coaching Client

My approach

I offer a free no-obligation 30 minute telephone or Zoom consultation for you to let me know what you'd like to receive from coaching and for us to discuss whether we might be a good match to work together.

In our first session, you may want to begin by focusing on one of the seven themes, or to simply bring what feels most important for you to begin with.

I work with Voice Dialogue (parts work), inner child re-parenting, body awareness, mindfulness, polyvagal theory (regulation of the nervous system), attachment theory/styles, non-violent communication (NVC), guided meditation, menstrual cycle awareness for women and a wide range of experiential exercises and models that support greater self-awareness, deeper self-connection, learning and growth.

My coaching approach is practical and includes homework or homeplay that will help you to practice what you learn and discover in our session(s) and integrate it into your everyday life. I offer guidance which supports your personal empowerment, acknowledging that ultimately YOU are the expert in your experience and that I, or anyone else, cannot know what is best for you.

I receive regular ongoing support and supervision with Ireland-based psychotherapist Alison McGeown. Sessions can be held in person or via Skype. If you have any further questions on my approach, please do get in touch.

My experience

Authentic Relating & Kind Communication
  • Improving communication in all relationships, for more harmony and to reduce conflicts
  • Being your true self and being loved and accepted for who you really are
Befriending your whole self
  • Finding acceptance and compassion for yourself, and loving your whole self
  • Meeting loss and grief with self-compassion and self-soothing
  • Discovering yourself after a big life change such as a break-up or divorce, and creating a new life that you love living
Deepening Connection & Intimacy with Yourself & Others
  • Finding stability and untapped resources within yourself, to help you deal with times of change and uncertainty
  • Learning practical actions to meet a new romantic partner and nurture the connection in its early stages and beyond as the relationship grows and deepens
  • Finding forgiveness after a betrayal or conflict and self-forgiveness
  • Moving from being confused and conflicted to clear and empowered when making difficult decisions
Everyday Spirituality
  • Reconnecting with your spirituality after a spiritual crisis of feeling lost, alone and disconnected
  • Staying connected with the essence of your own being more deeply in everyday life
  • Expressing the qualities of your spiritual nature such as unconditional love, kindness and forgiveness more fully in your relationship with yourself and others
Healthy Boundaries, Saying No & Assertiveness
  • Learning how to say No with greater confidence and ease and to stop people-pleasing
  • Negotiating assertively in difficult situations for the best possible outcome
  • Building confidence to do what you really want to do in life, instead of what is expected of you
Self-love, Self-compassion & Self-care
  • Overcoming self-criticism that is holding you back
  • Becoming unstuck from an unhappy life situation or relationship and moving toward what you want
  • Addressing emotional eating and other addictive patterns
  • Increasing your personal empowerment to deal with challenging relationships and difficult life situations
Understanding Relationship Dynamics
  • Changing negative patterns that create disconnection and disharmony in your relationships
  • Knowing yourself and discovering your deepest wants and needs in your relationships
  • Difficulties with relationships at work

Frequently asked questions

How many coaching sessions will I need?

It depends on what you want to work with, and the kinds of changes you are looking for. A minimum of three sessions is usually recommended to work with a particular issue, however sometimes a single session is all that is needed if there’s something very specific you need support with. Many people find that support in ongoing sessions is most effective for deep, lasting change in their relationships and life. We can discuss what might work best for you to start with in our initial call.



Are there coaching programmes for working with a specific issue?

Yes. There are 6 and 12 week coaching programmes for working with specific issues, that are tailored to your personal support and learning needs, such as Dating and Relating for romantic relationship, Healthy Personal Boundaries, Saying No and Assertiveness, and Deepening Connection and Intimacy. Please get in touch if you have any questions about these programmes, or if you have a particular issue you’d like to work with as a tailored 6 or 12 week programme.

What is the cost?

An hour-long session costs £60GBP. If you are experiencing financial difficulty and this fee would be a barrier for you, please do get in touch to discuss a solution.

Working with seven themes

 

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Authentic Relating & Kind Communication

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Befriending Your Whole Self

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Deepening Connection & Intimacy With Yourself & Others

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Everyday Spirituality

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Healthy Personal Boundaries, Saying No & Assertiveness

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Self-Love, 
Self-Compassion
& Self-Care

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Understanding Relationship Dynamics

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Healthy Personal Boundaries, Saying No & Assertiveness

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Self-Love, 
Self-Compassion
& Self-Care

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Understanding Relationship Dynamics

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