One-to-one coaching supporting you to make changes and create a life that you love living.
In my role as coach, I provide guidance and encouragement for you to make real, lasting changes in your relationship with yourself, others, and life, and to learn and grow in ways that matter most to you.
I provide support for you to bring greater awareness to the patterns that play out in your experience, to listen deeply to yourself, to step out of your comfort zone, to see things and view yourself from different perspectives, to foster habits and ways of being that serve you, to move toward what you want and to be open to new possibilities.
I offer a free no-obligation phone or Zoom consultation for you to let me know what you'd like to receive from coaching and for us to discuss whether we might be a good match to work together.
In our first session, you may want to begin by focusing on one of the seven themes (please scroll down to see below), or to simply bring what feels most important for you to begin with.
I work with Voice Dialogue (parts work), inner child re-parenting, body awareness, mindfulness, polyvagal theory (regulation of the nervous system), attachment theory/styles, non-violent communication (NVC), guided meditation, menstrual cycle and menopause awareness and a wide range of experiential exercises and models that support greater self-awareness, deeper self-connection, learning and growth.
My coaching approach is both inner-process oriented and action-oriented. It is practical and includes homework or homeplay that will help you to practice what you learn and discover in our session(s) and integrate it into your everyday life. I offer guidance which supports your personal empowerment, acknowledging that ultimately YOU are the expert in your experience and that I, or anyone else, cannot know what is best for you.
I receive regular ongoing support and supervision with Ireland-based psychotherapist Alison McGeown and supervision for Voice Dialogue facilitation with East Sussex-based psychotherapist Jayne Deeks. Sessions can be held in person in Hove at Grey Door Therapy or Brighton and Hove Therapy Hub, or online. If you have any further questions on my approach, please do get in touch.
Relationships coach and Trainer/facilitator
I support people to enjoy wellbeing, confidence and happiness, in kind, healthy relationships, in both personal and professional life.
I’m a relationships coach and trainer/facilitator of 20 years experience. I’m deeply commitment to living what I teach, and to bringing my ongoing learning and life experience to my work.
I’ve experienced many of the relationship challenges my clients face and have healed dysfunctional relationship patterns that I had, at times, believed would never change. This enables me to offer solid support and guidance from a place of deep understanding, for my clients to move toward experiencing the relationships they dream of.
As a child I had a keen, buzzing curiosity to understand myself, others and life, as well as I possibly could. So many things in the world and ways that people relate didn't make sense. I didn't understand why people were so unhappy, fought so much and why there were so many rules (both spoken and unspoken) people were expected to follow that meant we couldn't be our honest, authentic selves.
I questioned and challenged the idea that it was "just how life is", speaking up when something didn't seem fair or didn't make sense, and daring to explore and express who I felt I was, rather than accepting the ideas of who I was told I should be. I looked for ways to connect more deeply with myself and others, pondered the mystery of what this life is all about, and delighted in discovering and creating my own unique ways of being in the world.
Exploring my spiritual nature and what it meant for how I related in life was a huge part of my tween and teenage years. At the age of 15, I had an experience early one midsummer morning of complete belonging, deep peace, and indescribable joy and beauty. I knew myself as an integral part of everything that exists and felt the complete perfection of it all, no part excluded. For me, the question then became how to remember and integrate this recognition of my true nature into everyday life, with all of its struggles, suffering, confusions and paradoxes; a question that is as alive in me now as it was then.
In my early twenties I took a masters degree in community development and began my professional career supporting the empowerment of local communities, soon realising that community empowerment was impossible without the individuals of those communities becoming personally empowered in their own lives and relationships.
Realising that life is all about relationships, I began offering an assertiveness course. I loved seeing how people's lives transformed when they learned how to listen to themselves and say No and Yes clearly and kindly. Many reported being newly empowered to speak up and handle difficult conversations at work, communicate better with their partner and set healthy boundaries with their children and other family members, feeling freer to be themselves, happier and more at peace.
The personal relationship challenges I've faced and worked with in my own life led me to seek out training that would equip me to navigate them with more skill, love and kindness, and to support others to do the same. This includes training with Jan Day, Voice Dialogue training with Transforming Dialogue and a Year of Polyvagal with Deb Dana.
The huge shifts I’ve experienced in difficult relationship patterns means my life is now much happier, healthier and more fulfilling than I ever thought possible. I've learned and discovered a great deal since my early thirties that I wished I'd been taught at school; I believe life would've been so much simpler, happier and more peaceful. I have a huge passion for sharing with others what I find most helpful, and a deep wish for us all to experience what we most long for in our relationships with ourselves, with others and with life.
I'm based in Hove, East Sussex.
Working with seven themes
My experience includes supporting clients with:
Authentic Relating & Kind Communication
- Improving communication in all relationships, for more harmony and to reduce conflicts
- Being your true self and being loved and accepted for who you really are
Befriending your whole self
- Finding acceptance and compassion for yourself, and loving your whole self
- Meeting loss and grief with self-compassion and self-soothing
- Discovering yourself after a big life change such as a break-up or divorce, and creating a new life that you love living
Deepening Connection & Intimacy with Yourself & Others
- Finding stability and untapped resources within yourself, to help you deal with times of change and uncertainty
- Learning practical actions to meet a new romantic partner and nurture the connection in its early stages and beyond as the relationship grows and deepens
- Finding forgiveness after a betrayal or conflict, and self-forgiveness
- Moving from being confused and conflicted to clear and empowered when making difficult decisions
- Reconnecting with your spirituality after a spiritual crisis of feeling lost, alone and disconnected
- Staying connected with the essence of your own being more deeply in everyday life
- Expressing the qualities of your spiritual nature such as unconditional love, kindness and forgiveness more fully in your relationship with yourself and others
Healthy Boundaries, Saying No & Assertiveness
- Learning how to say No with greater confidence and ease and stop people-pleasing
- Negotiating assertively in difficult situations for the best possible outcome
- Building confidence to do what you really want to do in life, instead of simply what is expected of you
Self-love, Self-compassion & Self-care
- Overcoming self-criticism that is holding you back
- Becoming unstuck from an unhappy life situation or relationship and moving toward what you want
- Addressing emotional eating and other addictive patterns
- Increasing your personal empowerment to deal with challenging relationships and difficult life situations
Understanding Relationship Dynamics
- Understanding and changing negative patterns that create disconnection and disharmony in your relationships
- Knowing yourself and discovering your deepest wants and needs in your relationships
- Difficulties with relationships at work
Frequently asked questions
Do you work with couples or individuals?
I work with both individuals and couples.
As a Relationships Coach, I support people to enjoy wellbeing, confidence and happiness in all the relationships that make up their life experience: their relationships with themselves (the primary relationship which determines the quality of all our other relationships and interactions) their relationships with romantic partner(s), family, friends, work colleagues, customers/clients, and with life itself.
How many coaching sessions will I need?
It depends on what you want to work with, and the kinds of changes you are looking for. A minimum of three sessions is usually recommended to work with a particular issue, however sometimes a single session is all that is needed if there’s something very specific you need support with. Many people find that support in ongoing sessions is most effective for deep, lasting change in their relationships and life. We can discuss what might work best for you to start with in our initial call.
Are there coaching programmes for working with a specific issue?
Yes. There are 6 and 12 week coaching programmes for working with specific issues, that are tailored to your personal support and learning needs, such as Dating and Relating for romantic relationship, Healthy Personal Boundaries, Saying No and Assertiveness, and Deepening Connection and Intimacy. Please get in touch if you have any questions about these programmes, or if you have a particular issue you’d like to work with as a tailored 6 or 12 week programme.
What is the cost?
An hour-long 1-1 session costs £70GBP.
An hour-long couple session costs £90GBP.
Book a free consultation or make an enquiry
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How I Became a Relationships Coach
Relationships Coach Nicola Williams talks with Somatic Therapist and Educator Gwen McHale about how she became a Relationships Coach.