I support people to enjoy well-being, confidence and happiness in healthy relationships.
I’m a relationships coach and trainer/facilitator of 19 years experience. I’m deeply commitment to living what I teach, and to bringing my ongoing learning and life experience to my work. I’ve experienced many of the relationship challenges my clients face and have healed dysfunctional relationship patterns that I had, at times, believed would never change. This enables me to offer solid support and guidance from a place of deep understanding, for my clients to move toward experiencing the relationships they dream of.
As a child I had a keen, buzzing curiosity to understand myself, others and life, as well as I possibly could. So many things in the world and ways that people relate didn’t make sense. I didn’t understand why people were so unhappy, fought so much and why there were so many rules we were expected to follow that meant we couldn’t be our natural, honest, authentic selves.
I questioned and challenged the idea that it was “just how life is”, speaking up when something didn’t seem fair or didn’t make sense, and daring to explore and express who I really was, rather than accepting the ideas of who I was told I should be. I looked for ways to connect more deeply, pondered the mystery of what this life is all about, and delighted in discovering and creating my own unique ways of being in the world.
Exploring my spiritual nature and what it meant for how I related in life was a huge part of my tween and teenage years. At the age of 15, I had an experience early one midsummer morning of complete belonging, deep peace, and indescribable joy and beauty. I knew myself as an integral part of everything that exists and felt the complete perfection of it all, no part excluded. For me, the question then became how to remember and integrate this knowing of my true nature into everyday life, with all of its struggles, suffering, confusions and paradoxes; a question that is as alive in me now as it was then.
In my early twenties I took a masters degree in community development and began my professional career supporting the empowerment of local communities, soon realising that community empowerment was impossible without the individuals of those communities becoming personally empowered in their own lives and relationships.
Realising that life is all about relationships, I began with offering an assertiveness course. I loved seeing how much it transformed people’s lives when they learned how to listen to themselves and say No and Yes, as they truly felt them. Many reported being newly able to speak up at work, handle difficult conversations with their partner or set healthy boundaries with their children, feeling freer to be themselves, happier and more at peace.
The personal relationship challenges I’ve faced and worked with in my own life led me to seek out trainings that would equip me to navigate them with more skill, love and kindness, and to support others to do the same. These include Jan Day’s 18 month Living Tantra training, Voice Dialogue training with Transforming Dialogue and a Year of Polyvagal with Deb Dana.
The huge shifts I’ve experienced in painful relationship patterns means my life is now much happier, healthier and more fulfilling than I ever thought possible. I’ve learned and discovered a great deal since my early thirties that I wished I’d been taught at school; life would’ve been so much simpler, happier and more peaceful. I have huge passion for bringing to others what I believe is most helpful, with a deep wish for us all to experience what we most long for in our relationships, with ourselves, with others and with life.